INSTRUCTION FOR YOUTH-SERVING ADULTS
This document will be used for these intended purposes:
- To satisfy House Bill 286, Second Substitute Child Sexual Abuse Prevention, sponsored in the 2014 General Session of the Utah Legislature by Rep. Angela Romero, which enacted Utah Code 53A-13-112, provisions relating to child sexual abuse prevention training and instruction in public schools.
- As a guide for evaluation of possible curricula by the state and possibly by local education agencies throughout Utah.
A Youth-serving Adult (YSA) is any adult who works with children not related to them. This includes teachers, coaches, nurses, volunteers, advocates, and other paid and non-paid staff.
Method of teaching: The training of YSAs should be oriented to educate and prepare YSAs to support and report suspected abuse. The training should include portions that are interactive. Include vignettes with continuum of appropriate to harmful behaviors for YSAs to decide if the person is acting appropriately.
Ongoing training: Training should be continuously reinforced throughout each school year.
Have familiarity with law: Read and understand Utah’s laws in regard to sexual abuse, Utah Code 53A-13-302.
Cultural differences and/or special populations: Be mindful of your own cultural upbringing, and teach to the individual in equitable ways. Consider more specialized instruction when needed, and use teaching aids and lessons that are adaptable for cultural relevance and special populations.
Limits of training: Training should focus on prevention and interruption of child sexual abuse.
REQUIRED PROGRAM CONCEPTS
All bolded terms are minimum expectations. Accompanying information should be treated as explanatory to the bolded term.
Sexual misconduct: Any act or acts by any person involving sexual molestation or exploitation of a youth including but not limited to incest, prostitution, rape, sodomy, or any lewd and lascivious conduct involving a youth. Any sexual act by an adult that makes the youth feel uncomfortable. This can include physical and non-physical contact, pictures, inappropriate jokes or communication and other grooming behaviors.
Statistics: It is estimated that more than 300,000 children in the United States are sexually abused every year. According to the National Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Study, one in four girls and one in six boys will experience some form of sexual abuse before age 18. Fewer than one in 10 cases are reported. More than 88 percent of adults who were abused say they never reported the abuse to authorities. Between 80 and 90 percent of all perpetrators are someone who is close with the family, most likely in the victim’s “circle of trust.”
In Utah, 5,359 abuse cases were opened in 2014, according to the Utah Children’s Justice Centers. Of the types of victimizations reported, 78 percent were sexual abuse. Twenty-three percent of cases included abuse by a parent, while 25 percent included abuse by another relative.
Appropriate physical contact: Clarify the difference between safe/healthy touch and unsafe/unhealthy touch or behaviors that use language appropriate for grade level. Example: The private parts of your body are the parts of the body that are covered by a bathing suit.
- Safe touch: Anything that feels good and leaves us happy and comfortable. Examples include holding hands with friends, sharing meals, warm hugs from loving parents.
- Unsafe touch: Anything that leaves us feeling unsafe, confusing, or uneasy, excited or uncomfortable. Examples include touches involving special parts that are private to us, or touches that are told to be kept secret.
Adult responsibilities: Adults can miss critical opportunities to prevent child sexual abuse because they do not know what to look for, say, and do. By becoming educated, YSAs can make the world a safer place for youths. Every adult is responsible for the safety of children. If someone approaches a youth in a sexual way, adults are the ones who need to prevent, recognize, and react responsibly.
Effects of sexual abuse: Sexual abuse is extremely prevalent and can cause many different physical and mental health problems. The effects of sexual abuse are numerous and widespread. Survivors report increased likelihood of substance abuse and mental health issues. The side effects include increased risk of suicide and eating disorders. Both male and female victims are more likely to engage in prostitution than if they had not been abused. The economic strain on the community represents the second most expensive crime behind murder, costing the U.S. billions annually. Many victims report that they feel their innocence was taken from them, and that the emotional effects are lifelong and devastating.
Appropriate adult behavior: The curriculum should focus on teaching YSAs what good adult behavior looks like so that it is clear that it is the responsibility for adults to keep youths safe. Youths have the right to ask an adult to stop and can report any behavior that concerns them to a trusted adult. Modeling good adult behavior is a preferred method of teaching. YSAs should educate and model what appropriate behavior and contact look like, not to create fear and stop appropriate learning scenarios. YSAs need to consider a youth’s individual needs and interact in a way that is beneficial but safe for both parties.
Examples of appropriate behavior include:
- Giving high-fives
- Respecting a youth’s requests for more personal space
- Keeping doors open if a youth is alone with an YSA
- Keeping windows clear of coverings
- Telling tasteful jokes
Examples of behaviors to avoid:
- One on one interaction between YSA and a youth
- Touching private areas
- Forcing a hug or other physical contact
- Engaging in social media interaction with an individual
- Sharing personal or intimate details of one’s home life with a youth
- Paying more attention to one youth than to others
Grooming cycle: Extensive personal actions and behaviors that build trust with youths (and often their caregivers) can be a step in the process of abuse. This “grooming” typically takes place over time, and develops into inappropriate physical contact. If an adult or older youth seems overly interested or creates opportunities to be alone with another youth, it is important to be aware and stop the cycle immediately. YSAs who know and recognize these behaviors are better prepared to prevent sexual abuse before it happens. Grooming is a subtle (hard to notice), gradual (slow), and escalating (more and worse over time) process of building “trust” with a youth and often the youth’s parent or other caregiver.
Grooming tricks include:
- Fake trustworthiness – pretending to be the youth’s friend in order to gain their trust
- Testing boundaries – jokes, roughhousing, back rubs, tickling, or sexualized games (pants-ing, truth or dare, strip games, etc.)
- Touch – from regular, mostly comfortable non-sexual touch to “accidental” touch of private parts, often over time
- Intimidation – using fear, embarrassment, or guilt to keep a youth from telling anyone
- Sharing sexual material – capitalizing on a youth’s natural curiosity to normalize sexual behavior by showing pictures, videos, text messages, photos, websites, notes, etc., of a sexual nature
- Breaking rules – encouraging a youth to break rules, which establishes secret-keeping as part of the relationship and can be used as blackmail in the future
- Drugs and alcohol – breaking the rules (see above) and/or making the youth less able to stop the abuse because they’re under the influence of the substance
- Communicating secretly – texting, emailing, or calling in an unexpected way (parents don’t know about it, it happens a lot, the youth is told to keep it a secret)
- Blaming and confusing – making the youth feel responsible for the abuse or what could happen to the youth, his/her family, or the abuser if the youth tells
For all of these tricks give examples of what an abuser might say or do at different stages in the grooming process, pointing out how it might be hard to recognize at first, the gradual pace, and how it escalates over time.
Where abuse occurs: Anywhere there are youths (homes, schools, bedrooms, locker-rooms, cars, social media, etc.) Sexual abuse is a crime that fuels off of secrecy and trust. In short, wherever youths are alone physically or virtually with an adult is a potential place where they could be subjected to sexual abuse.
Trafficking: Human trafficking is a form of modern-day slavery in which traffickers use force, fraud, or coercion to control victims for the purpose of engaging in commercial sex acts or labor services against his/her will. These crimes include digital trafficking, including the distribution of photographs, videos, and other media of underage victims’ through online social networks.
- Prevention efforts do matter and by learning the facts, YSAs can make a difference.
- Adults miss opportunities to prevent child sexual abuse because of misinformation and confusing stereotypes. An abuser takes on all shapes and sizes, regardless of social status, ethnicity, race, or creed.
- An abuser is generally someone the family knows and trusts; someone who has easy and consistent access to the youth. The idea that the perpetrator is a “stranger lurking in a dark alley” is most often not the case.
- Sexual abuse doesn’t only happen to girls; it is not only committed by men. Boys and girls alike can be victims, just as women can be perpetrators of sexual abuse.
- Most victims do not become abusers.
Signs of abuse: There are many different signs that may be given by a youth who is a victim of abuse. Many signs together could even mean other stressors are occurring in a youth’s life that are affecting their well-being, such as divorce or bullying. However, if a YSA witnesses a combination of these signs, they should pay close attention and make sure to address it immediately.
Behavioral signs from a victim:
- Sleeping disturbances
- Sudden personality changes
- Older youths reverting back to younger behaviors
- Unexplained fear or refusal to be around a certain individual, or refusal to go to typical activities
- Sexual reactivity that is inappropriate for the youth’s stage of development
- Self-harming behaviors, such as cutting
- Participating in self-defeating behaviors or high risk, such as substance abuse
Physical signs from a victim:
- Difficulty walking or sitting
- Torn clothing
- Stained or bloody underwear
- Pain or itching in the genital area
- Sudden weight gain, or loss
Perpetrator information and traits: Perpetrators can look and act like every day people, and often try to blend into society. They can be charming, charismatic, and pillars in the community. Perpetrators will attempt to earn trust, thus challenging a YSA’s instincts and causing them to let down their guard. They are methodical in their efforts to keep up the image they have worked to create. People who society respects and admires can be perpetrators, including those in the workplace. Adults who have access to youths before or after school, or in private situations are more likely to sexually abuse youths. Any employee, including volunteers, might abuse. Sexual predators in schools are often well-liked or considered excellent teachers. Rumors can an important source of information on educator or caregiver sexual misconduct.
Risk factors: Certain traits or behaviors of a youth can put them at higher risk. Those who are insecure, have low self-esteem, feel lonely, or are disconnected are particularly vulnerable. Other factors include if he/she lacks access to information about sex and sexuality, or is exposed to videos, music, or video games that are violent, sexually explicit, or degrading to women. If there is unsupervised access to technology (the internet, cell phone), or the youth has a disability (cognitive, physical, emotional and/or learning), he or she may be susceptible.
LAWS AND RESPONSIBILITIES REGARDING PREVENTION AND DISCLOSURE
Mandatory reporting and requirements: In Utah, all adults are legally obligated to report suspected abuse, not just teachers, social workers, or police. Anyone who suspects any type of abuse to any child is required by law to call and report. There is an added importance to reporting for YSAs as they are in a position of trust and power. A licensed educator who does not report suspected abuse could be at risk of losing his or her license. If one suspects a youth is being (or has been) sexually abused, that person should immediately call Utah’s 24-hour Child Protection Line: 1-855-323-3237. The hotline makes it easy to share concerns about a youth with a trained social worker. A person does not need to be certain abuse has occurred to call.
How to react: When a youth discloses sexual abuse, the reaction plays an important part in whether the youth will continue to confide, or will shut off. YSAs should actively listen as the youth share experiences and ask themselves: Am I showing care and love, or am I quick to cast aside their experiences in response to my own uncomfortable feelings? Youths will pick up on everything from our mannerisms to our attentiveness (or lack thereof), and potentially judge themselves “guilty” or “dirty” according to how they feel YSAs perceive them. It is important to learn what to say, and what not to say.
Establish trust in the following ways:
- Don’t “interview” the youth; allow law enforcement and professionals to do that.
- Help the youth feel comfortable.
- Reassure the youth the abuse is not his or her fault.
- Don’t react with shock, anger, or disgust.
- Don’t force a youth to talk.
- Don’t force a youth to show injuries.
- Use terms and language that the youth can understand.
- Don’t teach the youth new terms or words; speak clearly and simply.
- Find out what the youth wants from you.
- Be honest with the youth.
- Confirm the validity of the youth’s feelings.
- Be supportive, and help the youth understand that he or she does not have to carry the burden alone.
What to expect when you report: Try to have as much information on hand as possible, including the name of the youth and his or her parents/caretakers; the youth’s date of birth, address, school or child care provider; and, the nature of the concerns. The system is set up to handle an investigation in a way that considers the well-being of the youth. By following the appropriate steps for reporting, chances are the youth will not be traumatized further by multiple interviews and the case will remain untainted by outside sources. After reporting potential abuse, you are turning over the information to authorities and have no legal right to further details.
School policy: Each school has procedures and prevention policies set in place to protect against sexual abuse and sexual predators. YSAs should educate themselves on school’s programs and work closely with school officials to reinforce these practices at home. Coordinate efforts in both the school and home environments to provide a clear and unified discussion of abuse, its terminology and signs, and the proper ways to report when one suspects abuse.
Minimize risk: Set clear boundaries and rules with a youth’s time, and think carefully about the safety of situations in which older youths have access to younger children. YSAs should ensure multiple adults are present to supervise. Consider the safety of any isolated, one-on-one settings, and choose group situations whenever possible. YSAs should monitor youth’s internet and social media use because perpetrators use the internet to lure youths into physical contact. Setting clear boundaries is also important to avoid putting a YSA at risk of accusation or misunderstanding and keeps both the adult and youths safe.
Trust your intuition: When reflecting on someone’s behavior, consider the following: Does it seem odd? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Does it seem to happen all the time or too often? Has anyone else commented or noticed? If the answer is yes, then trust your instincts and act. Confronting the person, or reporting what you suspect, may just save the life of a child.
Communication: YSAs should talk to youths about sexual abuse with clarity and confidence. All prevention efforts are strengthened by the reinforcement of prevention concepts. Practicing what to say will help to prepare for the conversations. Making sure youths have the words they need to describe situations that make them feel mixed up or uncomfortable. Experts suggest when talking to youths about body parts, that it is best to use the correct names, i.e. penis and vagina. When nicknames are used it can make it difficult or confusing for the youth to report.
Accountability: Youths shouldn’t have the burden of preventing sexual abuse by themselves. Adults must act on their commitment to keeping youth safe by learning to recognize and respond to inappropriate behaviors around youth, before a youth is harmed, and reporting if something has occurred.
Safety plans: Make a plan ahead of time about:
- What are the boundaries are for adult interactions with youths, including in regard to social media, the internet, and texting?
- What will be said if there is behavior that violates those boundaries?
- How will the YSA report abuse (what number to call, what information is needed, etc.)?
- How will the youth report abuse?
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